Present Over Perfect – Day 2

Welcome to Day 2, friends!

WOW – I’m so encouraged by the comments yesterday. You guys blew me away. Thank you for letting me know you are here and for chiming in on what we’re reading.

Today’s reading is on the Introduction: Ship to Wreck.


Is anyone else tempted to compare your life to those around you? Do you ever think you’d be happier doing what they are doing? Share your story if you’d like in the comments below. Let’s all stop and remake our lives from the inside out. What does that look like for you?


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12 thoughts on “Present Over Perfect – Day 2

  1. Being so much older and watching you young moms and the way you are raising your kids to love the Lord is one of those things I wish I had been able to do with my husband. It is so tempting to look at your lives and want that. God is showing me that my path is different that anyone else. He is taking me by the hand and leading me on the journey of my life. It is remaking me into the woman he has planned. There are sad moments as I look back, but forgiveness is such freedom. There are scary moments as I look ahead, but I am learning to wait and let God work out the details and know that I am not alone God is right here. I do love watching when people like you share their lives, good and not so good. You brighten my day with your honest life.

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    1. He is remaking us all, friend. You’re in the place He has planned for you right now!!! I’m glad we can spread some sunshine and encouragement your way. Some days I have to laugh to keep from crying 🙂

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  2. Another great vlog Starr! Just hearing the verse again brings tears to my eyes as I know where God wants me to be, but for some reason, I prefer to be stubborn and hang onto burdens that mean nothing. The answer to the poem is “Yes, I did build the ship to wreck.” Bible verse after Bible verse states that God is peace. Take Philippians 4:6-7 for instance: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Wow!! Way to go crazy Pam. Let me just do the opposite of what the Bible calls me to do and just think I can handle everything on my own and I can drown it out by numbing it in front of the TV and eating my crack (i.e. pizza) just so I can eat the whole thing and then hate myself for being lazy and fat. Another great verse is Romans 15:13, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Yet another one is 1 Corinthians 14:33, “For God is not a God of disorder but of peace – as in all the congregations of the Lord’s people.” That last verse really speaks to me as it is plain and simple in the Bible -> God is not disorder, but is peace. So, who is of disorder? Well, I can give you one guess; yes, the devil. So, here I am building my ship to wreck as I am inadvertently allowing the devil into my life as I’ve stopped praying for the peace and I’ve stopped praying for the clear, QUIET mind. Want to know why? Well, it’s because I am acting entitled (again inadvertently) as my prayers were not instantly answered. Since, I was not perfect at it, I stopped.

    This reminds me of what happened yesterday with my boy, who is in Kindergarten and is so much like me. As soon as he got home from school yesterday, he told me he didn’t like school anymore and didn’t want to go back all due to him getting a yellow stick (warning sign) because a little boy pushed him and my son pushed him back. It stopped me in my track because this is so me. He wasn’t perfect in just ONE instance (since he didn’t get his green stick, his praise for being awesome), so he wanted to quit and do something that he is good at (i.e. perfect at). Well, we all know no one is perfect at anything, so I know he will go from task to task until he tries to find that, which he will not succeed. Sounds just like me (going from job to job; from house to house). Of course, my mom says she will only get worried if I start changing spouses. Lol. Of course, I tried to explain to my son how that one instance does not define him, but I can’t help but feel that these tools we learn are not that useful just as the author states, “skills that take you through the first half of your life are entirely unhelpful for the second half.” It’s because those skills in the first half are being learned when our wagons are not as full and we think we can handle the load on our own, but then, BAM! Turn the corner and a HUGE load of responsibility is dropped on you and you suddenly find yourself crawling on the ground trying to pull that wagon. But we all couldn’t wait to grow up, right?!?!

    The Ship to Wreck poem even clearly defines what we are doing – making our bed in the earth while we are not supposed to be storing things on earth that will just rust, be stolen, destroyed by moths, but we are to build treasures in Heaven. Even the wild geese know when to head home. God pulls on us to let us know, “Hey!! It’s time. Come back to me. Come this way, so you can have rest and focus on what truly matter.”

    Oh, the comparisons!! Oh, how I compare everything I do. I stayed up so late trying to print off a sign from Pinterest for the first day of school just to find out I was out of ink and had to improvise because I just had to have that sign. Facebook can be good in sharing God’s words and provides a way to stay connected, but it is also the death of me. It is a collection of usually “best” moments and each time I look at it, I say “I want that. Why isn’t my life like that? How can I be more like that person? Why wasn’t I invited to that fun event?” I feel so bad for children growing up in this technology age as I know the comparison mindset can only get worse for them. We didn’t have cable growing up, so luckily there were not so many shows to watch and there was not a constant reminder of what “I didn’t have.” To stay connected meant to be physically be present, face-to-face or voice-to-voice.

    One picture I love to envision is the one told by Crystal McVea in “Waking up in Heaven.” The book title really sums up what the book is about – her trip to Heaven when she died, but was revived. In it, she describes her first experience while she woke up in Heaven. She states, “Unlike on Earth, where I was plagued by doubts and fears, in Heaven there was nothing but absolute certainty about who I was. This was a far more complete representation of my spirit and my heart and my being than was ever possible on Earth, a far deeper self-awareness than the collection of hopes and fears and dreams and scares that defined me during my life. I was flooded with self-knowledge, and all the junk that cluttered my identity on Earth instantly fell away, revealing for the first time ever, the real me. ‘Before I formed you in the womb, I knew who’ (Jeremiah 1:5).’ And now I knew myself. Imagine that – the first person we meet in Heaven is ourselves.”

    Well, I am so ready to meet myself again and let all those things that don’t matter, that way me down, fall of like the chains they are.

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  3. I am loving this book and enjoying your vlogs! This totally spoke to me. I have a bad habit of wanting to do so much that I am so overwhelmed or missing out on things with my family. I’m having to learn to focus more on the important things and not say “yes” to everything. I am also bad about not taking time for myself and that is going to forever be a work in progress!

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    1. Yes. That habit of wanting to do it all – I had NEVER ever thought about it being gluttony until she brought that up. But it is. Just like we have to watch ourselves from eating too much, we have to watch ourselves from doing too much. I just see so much potential and I really do enjoy a lot of what I do in life. That doesn’t make it ok to stay at 100mph and neglect my family and my home. I want to change that. Soooo glad you’re here. You’re one of the originals that started this writing journey with me and I’m so thankful that you’ve stuck around.


  4. Wow. Wow. Wow. Pam. Goodness, girlfriend. God is stirring something incredibly special inside of you right now. I know your family is going through a lot. I’m inspired by your words and your honesty. I’m so very thankful to have you here sharing with us all that goes through your mind – because in so many ways we are alike. I met with a friend today and you have no idea how many topics came up that you covered in what you wrote. I came out to my car and read your post and it was like you had been a fly on the wall in the conversations I just had. Are you spying on me?!??? Seriously. Thank you for sharing and being here.


    1. Haha. I think God is trying to tell me to let it out and let it go. Sometimes a quick vent or yell is helpful just to be able to move on. 🙂 I wish I had time for spying on you so that I can help build my secret vendetta to be just like you, but I don’t have the time unfortunately. 🙂

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      1. You are too funny, girl. Believe me. 5 min in my house and your secret vendetta would be RUINED!! Hahahah. Good thing you don’t have the time 🙂


  5. I don’t really get overwhelmed too easily but I do find myself wanting to do it all and not having enough time in the day. I want to be there for the family, good at my job, encouraging to others, supportive of my church and friends, closer to God….and I love to steal away for a little scrapbooking!!!! How does one decide which is more important on any given day? The guilt and regrets about bad decisions is the worst! Some decisions get easier with age and some just never seem to get easier. Life is tough but oh so rewarding. God is good and He Never fails. Isaiah 41:10…glad to be on this journey with God uplifting my weary body.

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  6. Again Pam said exactly what I am thinking and going through. Thanks. I don’t know how you are doing it but God is using you here. I have been so busy with work and moving and a car accident and my sons concussion while at FB practice last week. I am so busy. I don’t know how to stop the viscous cycle. And Starr? Can’t say enough about how much you mean to me. You are my personal hero in so many ways. I am hoping to be able to hear God when he speaks to my soul. I need it.

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    1. Gina, I saw that about your son and the concussion. Goodness. I’m praying for you and your family. I have the same vicious cycle. It’s terrible. I do what I don’t want to do. Just like Paul says in the Bible. I’m believing God will speak to you in His own special way. He’s so faithful to meet us when we surrender to Him. Thank you for being here. I know this is one more thing to add to your list. Don’t get overburdened. Show up here when you can and we’ll be praying for your son!

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